I recently got some harsh and direct feedback from a person that I trust.
It was hard to listen to, but I needed to hear it.
For the past two years, I have lived alone. I’m responsible for me in almost every respect. In those two years, my skin has grown thicker, my balls bigger, and my confidence stronger. Because of this, it feels like going against the grain in society has become normal.
Many times over the course of a day someone whom I don’t know will point and laugh at me on my ebike or will criticize my decisions as former group lead of GDG Waterloo. Sometimes it’s hard to live with, but in a way I’ve just gotten used to shrugging it off and doing it my way because, well, everyone’s a critic.
We live in a very judgemental society. Everyone is looking with disdain at someone else who may be different in some respect. Because of this noise, it’s too easy to miss or dismiss signal.
As much as I wanted to say that the reason I failed was because of someone else or something else, that’s just not the case. He called me on it and made me face it, and I’m stronger for it. You can bet that I’ll be doing my best to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
I’ve read this and re-read it trying to think about exactly what it is I’m trying to say. I think it is: We can’t see ourselves as others see us, no matter how hard we try or how much we think we can. When someone criticizes you and they’re right, admit it. To them and to you. Face the truth, no matter how hard it is, and do the right things to fix it.